Relationships: Love IS a verb!

I was asked recently for my view on the meaning of true love...

The best way I can answer that is to start by saying that love is something
we DO. In other words, "love" is a verb, not just a noun.

So, what is it that we do when we love someone...

Well, it starts with acknowledging their traits, attitudes, behaviors, etc., and moves on to include appreciating, respecting, and accepting them. This is easy when the traits, attitudes, and behaviors are pleasant and nice, but it becomes more challenging when they're a bit on the unpleasant side. This is when what we do includes forgiving the other person.

Love is not just a one-time event...

Love is not just a one-time event, like a present we give someone on his or her birthday. It is an ongoing process that doesn't end at the end of the day. It goes on and on, day in and day out, and it requires a continuous commitment to the other person.

Remember, love is something we DO!

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating Divorced Men: 7 Warning Signs You Should Avoid

Pay attention from the start...

Going into a relationship with your eyes wide open is important especially when dating a divorced man. Even without conflict dating a divorced man can have it's challenges because men typically don't get it when it comes to women.

To give you a better understanding of what might be going on with your divorced man let's look at the seven warning signs you should know and avoid. The seven areas of potential conflict I like to call 'red flags'. Each red flag is potentially a warning sign, an indication for you as a woman that something might not be right.

Are you compatible...

Red flag #1 - Possessive

Is he needy?

Does he constantly need to be with you?
He is unable to act independently of you?

If you're answering yes to these question it might be best for you to step back to consider whether or not you really want to have a relationship with him. Dating divorced men is challenging enough; adding possessiveness to the mix will make it even more challenging.

Red Flag #4 - Sexual Tendencies

Sexual styles and appetites can vary; having different values in the bedroom can cause stress in a relationship.

Are you conservative? Is he?
Do you like to experiment? Does he?

Sex is definitely something to be considered.

There are at least 7 Red Flags...

To read the complete article click here...

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Divorced Men Can Get It Right!

It took me 35 years...

It took 35 years, in all, one divorce and several failed relationships to understand what it takes to 'get it right'. I absolutely did it the hard way.

A Guiness record...

In my personal life its worth noting I was a divorced man for 25 years. Which may be some kind of a record, I'll have to check with Guiness.

Most divorced men get remarried within approximately 2 years of their previous marriage.

It's very uncommon for someone to stay divorced for a long period of time like i did and then to get remarried. If they're divorced for more than a few years they usually never mary.

There is hope...

If you're dating a divorced man just know there is hope, especially if he wants to 'get it right' the next time. You don't have wait 25 years for him to 'get it right'.

As a woman there are ways for you improve the odds when dating a divorced man and there are ways for you to know whether or not he's worth the time and the effort.

You don't have to do it the hard way. If you have question I would like to hear it. Just goto Ask Frank Spitzig and send me your question.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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What You Can Count on a Divorced Man Doing Wrong - Part I

Dating a divorced man has it's own set of unique challenges.

If you don't know what he's thinking his mistakes can go unnoticed leaving you to cope with the challenges of dating a divorced man who isn't ready or even committed to "getting it right" the next time around.

If he's been married you can count on him looking for a new long-term relationship and typically he is going to do so without giving himself enough time to deal with the broken relationship he just left.

In Part I of my article "What You Can Count on a Divorced Man Doing Wrong" I cover the first five mistakes you can expect a divorced man to make.

Here's a quick preview...

1. They Start Dating Too Soon

Men like women go through a grieving process when ending a relationship.

2. SEX is their Primary Motivation

Do I need to say more...men just don't get it when it comes to women.

To read the complete article click here...

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating a Divorced Man Can Work!

My wish for you a happy and fulfilling relationship in your life...

With so many married couples getting divorced the odds are you, as a single woman, will end up dating a divorce man. Understanding the unique challenges of dating a divorced man can give you some perspective and an opportunity to know upfront whether or not he is committed to "get it right" the next. In other words...

Is he worth the time, effort and potential heartache?

As a certified relationship coach I have learned over the last 10 years working with singles and couples…people do want a happy and fulfilling relationship in their life. My work with these people has prepared me fully to talk about the challenges you as a woman might face when dating divorced men.

When you date a divorced man you will get him and so much more.

Here are some of the subjects, as they relate to divorced men, I hope to cover here...

- Priorities
- Children
- Ex-wife.
- Money
- Habits
- Commitment
- Friends
- Family

Finally, if you have a question or a comment take a moment to share it.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

http://www.AskFrankSpitzig.com/