Dating Voodoo...manipulation or advice?

Do you want to date or to have a relationship?

Once you have answered this question it will be a whole lot easier for you to find and to identiify the most helpful and effective advice and support to guide you toward your ultimate goal.

Don't fall for all the dating Voodoo, the smokes and mirrors, it starts with you and knowing what you want.

What really matters...

- Does it really matter what you eat on your first date?
- Does it really matter what or how you say what you say on your first date?
- Does it really matter what you wear or how you style your hair?

Been there, done that and bought the t-shirt...

Shortly after I was married to my first wife she shared with me something that forever changed how I experienced her and our life together as husband and wife as I was left with a gnawing resentment that wouldn't go away.

If you are wanting a lasting relationship then this article Dating Voodoo...manipulation or advice? will offer you some great advice on what NOT to do.

Remember it starts with you and how you answered the very first question...

Do you want to date or to have a relationship?

How you answer this question is critical.

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating divorced men with children: Should you stay or should you go...

Are you prepared...

Every relationship, given enough time, will have its ups and downs this article will help you understand when those down moments really matter. Those down moments that matter are what I call warning signs. Each warning sign brings with it a particular challenge and or limitation to the relationship or the possibility of having one in the future.

Warning Sign #7...

If you're dating a divorced man with children then "Warning Sign #7" will be extremely important for you to understand. Remember, this is about him not you. If he has children you will need to understand that your relationship and the time you spend with him will be influenced by his role as a father.

And if time wasn't enough of a challenge, be prepared because you will no doubt have some differences with him as a parent. Understanding this ahead of time can prepare you for those moments giving you and opportunity to be less reactive and more responsive.

There are seven warning signs in all...

To read the complete article click here...

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Sex with your ex...a forbidden fruit or a nightmare?

An intriguing tweet...

The other day while scanning the many Tweets on relationships and divorced dating I happened upon a quote that caught my eye...

"Life is short so why pass up great sex if you don't have to?"

The quote was tweeted by SingleMomSeekin and included a link "Having Sex with Your Ex" to a related blog post a must read given the quote...

I've lived it...

Sex with your ex may seem like a guilty pleasure still, having sex with your ex is a bad idea on so many levels. How do I know...I did it, and lived to regret it!

I understand why we do it...familiarity, safety from disease, etc., but the reasons don’t outweigh the hazards.

Another roll in the hay...

Unless all you both want is another roll in the hay, it’s misleading to go ahead and sleep with your ex...

In the first place,

- It keeps you from moving on and going forward with your life.
- It can be misleading creating a glimmer of hope that the relationship isn’t really over.

There is no such thing as halfway...

If you maintain a connection with your ex...even if it seems to be just physical to you...it can be giving a very mixed message. There can be no healthy halfway. Either you’re done with each other, or you’re not.

Temptation and heartache...

So no matter how appealing the sex may be, resisting the temptation with your ex can save you and your ex hours of pain and heartache.

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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