Dating Voodoo...manipulation or advice?

Do you want to date or to have a relationship?

Once you have answered this question it will be a whole lot easier for you to find and to identiify the most helpful and effective advice and support to guide you toward your ultimate goal.

Don't fall for all the dating Voodoo, the smokes and mirrors, it starts with you and knowing what you want.

What really matters...

- Does it really matter what you eat on your first date?
- Does it really matter what or how you say what you say on your first date?
- Does it really matter what you wear or how you style your hair?

Been there, done that and bought the t-shirt...

Shortly after I was married to my first wife she shared with me something that forever changed how I experienced her and our life together as husband and wife as I was left with a gnawing resentment that wouldn't go away.

If you are wanting a lasting relationship then this article Dating Voodoo...manipulation or advice? will offer you some great advice on what NOT to do.

Remember it starts with you and how you answered the very first question...

Do you want to date or to have a relationship?

How you answer this question is critical.

If you have questions you can share them with me by going to Ask Frank Spitzig.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating divorced men with children: Should you stay or should you go...

Are you prepared...

Every relationship, given enough time, will have its ups and downs this article will help you understand when those down moments really matter. Those down moments that matter are what I call warning signs. Each warning sign brings with it a particular challenge and or limitation to the relationship or the possibility of having one in the future.

Warning Sign #7...

If you're dating a divorced man with children then "Warning Sign #7" will be extremely important for you to understand. Remember, this is about him not you. If he has children you will need to understand that your relationship and the time you spend with him will be influenced by his role as a father.

And if time wasn't enough of a challenge, be prepared because you will no doubt have some differences with him as a parent. Understanding this ahead of time can prepare you for those moments giving you and opportunity to be less reactive and more responsive.

There are seven warning signs in all...

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Sex with your ex...a forbidden fruit or a nightmare?

An intriguing tweet...

The other day while scanning the many Tweets on relationships and divorced dating I happened upon a quote that caught my eye...

"Life is short so why pass up great sex if you don't have to?"

The quote was tweeted by SingleMomSeekin and included a link "Having Sex with Your Ex" to a related blog post a must read given the quote...

I've lived it...

Sex with your ex may seem like a guilty pleasure still, having sex with your ex is a bad idea on so many levels. How do I know...I did it, and lived to regret it!

I understand why we do it...familiarity, safety from disease, etc., but the reasons don’t outweigh the hazards.

Another roll in the hay...

Unless all you both want is another roll in the hay, it’s misleading to go ahead and sleep with your ex...

In the first place,

- It keeps you from moving on and going forward with your life.
- It can be misleading creating a glimmer of hope that the relationship isn’t really over.

There is no such thing as halfway...

If you maintain a connection with your ex...even if it seems to be just physical to you...it can be giving a very mixed message. There can be no healthy halfway. Either you’re done with each other, or you’re not.

Temptation and heartache...

So no matter how appealing the sex may be, resisting the temptation with your ex can save you and your ex hours of pain and heartache.

Have a question, take a moment to share it with me at AskFrankSpitzig.com or tweet it to the Twibe.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Join the Twibe: Dating Divorced Men

Give yourself a break...

The whole relationship process is tough enough without you having to face all the challenges and unanswered questions on your own.

If you tweet from time to time or often here is the perfect way for you to stay in touch with my tweets and other women dealing with same challenges as you.

Click here to join the Dating Divorced Men Twibe, a Twitter group design just for you.

Get answers to your questions...

Have a question, take a moment to share it with me at AskFrankSpitzig.com or tweet it to the Twibe.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Relationships: Love IS a verb!

I was asked recently for my view on the meaning of true love...

The best way I can answer that is to start by saying that love is something
we DO. In other words, "love" is a verb, not just a noun.

So, what is it that we do when we love someone...

Well, it starts with acknowledging their traits, attitudes, behaviors, etc., and moves on to include appreciating, respecting, and accepting them. This is easy when the traits, attitudes, and behaviors are pleasant and nice, but it becomes more challenging when they're a bit on the unpleasant side. This is when what we do includes forgiving the other person.

Love is not just a one-time event...

Love is not just a one-time event, like a present we give someone on his or her birthday. It is an ongoing process that doesn't end at the end of the day. It goes on and on, day in and day out, and it requires a continuous commitment to the other person.

Remember, love is something we DO!

If you have questions you can share them with me by going to Ask Frank Spitzig.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating Divorced Men: 7 Warning Signs You Should Avoid

Pay attention from the start...

Going into a relationship with your eyes wide open is important especially when dating a divorced man. Even without conflict dating a divorced man can have it's challenges because men typically don't get it when it comes to women.

To give you a better understanding of what might be going on with your divorced man let's look at the seven warning signs you should know and avoid. The seven areas of potential conflict I like to call 'red flags'. Each red flag is potentially a warning sign, an indication for you as a woman that something might not be right.

Are you compatible...

Red flag #1 - Possessive

Is he needy?

Does he constantly need to be with you?
He is unable to act independently of you?

If you're answering yes to these question it might be best for you to step back to consider whether or not you really want to have a relationship with him. Dating divorced men is challenging enough; adding possessiveness to the mix will make it even more challenging.

Red Flag #4 - Sexual Tendencies

Sexual styles and appetites can vary; having different values in the bedroom can cause stress in a relationship.

Are you conservative? Is he?
Do you like to experiment? Does he?

Sex is definitely something to be considered.

There are at least 7 Red Flags...

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Divorced Men Can Get It Right!

It took me 35 years...

It took 35 years, in all, one divorce and several failed relationships to understand what it takes to 'get it right'. I absolutely did it the hard way.

A Guiness record...

In my personal life its worth noting I was a divorced man for 25 years. Which may be some kind of a record, I'll have to check with Guiness.

Most divorced men get remarried within approximately 2 years of their previous marriage.

It's very uncommon for someone to stay divorced for a long period of time like i did and then to get remarried. If they're divorced for more than a few years they usually never mary.

There is hope...

If you're dating a divorced man just know there is hope, especially if he wants to 'get it right' the next time. You don't have wait 25 years for him to 'get it right'.

As a woman there are ways for you improve the odds when dating a divorced man and there are ways for you to know whether or not he's worth the time and the effort.

You don't have to do it the hard way. If you have question I would like to hear it. Just goto Ask Frank Spitzig and send me your question.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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What You Can Count on a Divorced Man Doing Wrong - Part I

Dating a divorced man has it's own set of unique challenges.

If you don't know what he's thinking his mistakes can go unnoticed leaving you to cope with the challenges of dating a divorced man who isn't ready or even committed to "getting it right" the next time around.

If he's been married you can count on him looking for a new long-term relationship and typically he is going to do so without giving himself enough time to deal with the broken relationship he just left.

In Part I of my article "What You Can Count on a Divorced Man Doing Wrong" I cover the first five mistakes you can expect a divorced man to make.

Here's a quick preview...

1. They Start Dating Too Soon

Men like women go through a grieving process when ending a relationship.

2. SEX is their Primary Motivation

Do I need to say more...men just don't get it when it comes to women.

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating a Divorced Man Can Work!

My wish for you a happy and fulfilling relationship in your life...

With so many married couples getting divorced the odds are you, as a single woman, will end up dating a divorce man. Understanding the unique challenges of dating a divorced man can give you some perspective and an opportunity to know upfront whether or not he is committed to "get it right" the next. In other words...

Is he worth the time, effort and potential heartache?

As a certified relationship coach I have learned over the last 10 years working with singles and couples…people do want a happy and fulfilling relationship in their life. My work with these people has prepared me fully to talk about the challenges you as a woman might face when dating divorced men.

When you date a divorced man you will get him and so much more.

Here are some of the subjects, as they relate to divorced men, I hope to cover here...

- Priorities
- Children
- Ex-wife.
- Money
- Habits
- Commitment
- Friends
- Family

Finally, if you have a question or a comment take a moment to share it.

Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

http://www.AskFrankSpitzig.com/