I was asked recently for my view on the meaning of true love...
The best way I can answer that is to start by saying that love is something
we DO. In other words, "love" is a verb, not just a noun.
So, what is it that we do when we love someone...
Well, it starts with acknowledging their traits, attitudes, behaviors, etc., and moves on to include appreciating, respecting, and accepting them. This is easy when the traits, attitudes, and behaviors are pleasant and nice, but it becomes more challenging when they're a bit on the unpleasant side. This is when what we do includes forgiving the other person.
Love is not just a one-time event...
Love is not just a one-time event, like a present we give someone on his or her birthday. It is an ongoing process that doesn't end at the end of the day. It goes on and on, day in and day out, and it requires a continuous commitment to the other person.
Remember, love is something we DO!
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Best Wishes,
Frank Spitzig
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ReplyDeleteLots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.
Once you’ve healed, you’ll be ready to love again. Dealing with a breakup prepares you for this. There’s always the chance you’ll be hurt, but this is just a part of life and you can’t let it stop you - besides, you’ll be able to handle your next relationship better thanks to the lessons you’ve learned. It’s even possible that you and your ex have both learned and grown from this experience and may be able to get back together and build a lasting relationship.
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ReplyDeleteThanks for the comments. I agree with what you've said on love and the necessity of healing after a breakup. I would caution, however, against holding out too much hope of building a healthy lasting relationship with your ex. I agree that this sometimes happens, but its occurrence is rare. And much more likely is that the pain that caused the first breakup will resurface and destroy any future love relationship. This is not cast in stone, but the odds favor it as the likely outcome.