Divorced Men: The end of a marriage needs to be mourned

Is it really over...

The end of a marriage needs to be mourned before it can be put permanently away and the divorced person can move on to a new, healthy, committed relationship. The process will take time. Rush it and he is destined to end up divorced once again.

Denial is part of the process...

- All we need is a little break and everything will be okay.
- It wasn't my fault.
- It really wasn't that bad.

It really is over...

Until he comes to terms with the finality of the divorce and he is able to let go of his connection to the relationship it will be difficult for future women to form a real and lasting bond.

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Frank Spitzig

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Sample Recording: Ask Frank Spitzig call 1 sample...

A sample recording from the first Ask Frank Spitzig call.

In the following recording you will learn more about Frank and the monthly Ask Frank Spitzig calls.

Here are the topics covered in this sample...

- How Frank came to be a relationship coach
- Whether or not divorced men are worth dating
- How children can impact a relationship
- A question from Tricia regarding her divorced partner, the ex-wife and his children

If you are dating a divorced man with children take a moment to listen to this sample recording.


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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating Voodoo...manipulation or advice?

Do you want to date or to have a relationship?

Once you have answered this question it will be a whole lot easier for you to find and to identiify the most helpful and effective advice and support to guide you toward your ultimate goal.

Don't fall for all the dating Voodoo, the smokes and mirrors, it starts with you and knowing what you want.

What really matters...

- Does it really matter what you eat on your first date?
- Does it really matter what or how you say what you say on your first date?
- Does it really matter what you wear or how you style your hair?

Been there, done that and bought the t-shirt...

Shortly after I was married to my first wife she shared with me something that forever changed how I experienced her and our life together as husband and wife as I was left with a gnawing resentment that wouldn't go away.

If you are wanting a lasting relationship then this article Dating Voodoo...manipulation or advice? will offer you some great advice on what NOT to do.

Remember it starts with you and how you answered the very first question...

Do you want to date or to have a relationship?

How you answer this question is critical.

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Dating divorced men with children: Should you stay or should you go...

Are you prepared...

Every relationship, given enough time, will have its ups and downs this article will help you understand when those down moments really matter. Those down moments that matter are what I call warning signs. Each warning sign brings with it a particular challenge and or limitation to the relationship or the possibility of having one in the future.

Warning Sign #7...

If you're dating a divorced man with children then "Warning Sign #7" will be extremely important for you to understand. Remember, this is about him not you. If he has children you will need to understand that your relationship and the time you spend with him will be influenced by his role as a father.

And if time wasn't enough of a challenge, be prepared because you will no doubt have some differences with him as a parent. Understanding this ahead of time can prepare you for those moments giving you and opportunity to be less reactive and more responsive.

There are seven warning signs in all...

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Sex with your ex...a forbidden fruit or a nightmare?

An intriguing tweet...

The other day while scanning the many Tweets on relationships and divorced dating I happened upon a quote that caught my eye...

"Life is short so why pass up great sex if you don't have to?"

The quote was tweeted by SingleMomSeekin and included a link "Having Sex with Your Ex" to a related blog post a must read given the quote...

I've lived it...

Sex with your ex may seem like a guilty pleasure still, having sex with your ex is a bad idea on so many levels. How do I know...I did it, and lived to regret it!

I understand why we do it...familiarity, safety from disease, etc., but the reasons don’t outweigh the hazards.

Another roll in the hay...

Unless all you both want is another roll in the hay, it’s misleading to go ahead and sleep with your ex...

In the first place,

- It keeps you from moving on and going forward with your life.
- It can be misleading creating a glimmer of hope that the relationship isn’t really over.

There is no such thing as halfway...

If you maintain a connection with your ex...even if it seems to be just physical to you...it can be giving a very mixed message. There can be no healthy halfway. Either you’re done with each other, or you’re not.

Temptation and heartache...

So no matter how appealing the sex may be, resisting the temptation with your ex can save you and your ex hours of pain and heartache.

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Best Wishes,

Frank Spitzig

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Join the Twibe: Dating Divorced Men

Give yourself a break...

The whole relationship process is tough enough without you having to face all the challenges and unanswered questions on your own.

If you tweet from time to time or often here is the perfect way for you to stay in touch with my tweets and other women dealing with same challenges as you.

Click here to join the Dating Divorced Men Twibe, a Twitter group design just for you.

Get answers to your questions...

Have a question, take a moment to share it with me at AskFrankSpitzig.com or tweet it to the Twibe.

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Frank Spitzig

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Relationships: Love IS a verb!

I was asked recently for my view on the meaning of true love...

The best way I can answer that is to start by saying that love is something
we DO. In other words, "love" is a verb, not just a noun.

So, what is it that we do when we love someone...

Well, it starts with acknowledging their traits, attitudes, behaviors, etc., and moves on to include appreciating, respecting, and accepting them. This is easy when the traits, attitudes, and behaviors are pleasant and nice, but it becomes more challenging when they're a bit on the unpleasant side. This is when what we do includes forgiving the other person.

Love is not just a one-time event...

Love is not just a one-time event, like a present we give someone on his or her birthday. It is an ongoing process that doesn't end at the end of the day. It goes on and on, day in and day out, and it requires a continuous commitment to the other person.

Remember, love is something we DO!

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Frank Spitzig

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